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Your body, together with a soul and a spirit, is a crucible that attracts life to itself, in which YOU, over a period of time, form up
YOU form up from many different aspects:-
If you are facing in one direction, holding on to where you have been, how can you face the other direction and move into it? Much of the muddle in our lives is because we still hold on to the old whilst already having moved into the new. Like the adolescent who goes forth with a cigarette in one hand and a lollipop in the other. Best to let go first, pause, look at the new, and then march forward, free, eager and ready….
Being human is such a magical affair, and at the same time it is weird and difficult to understand the multitude of working parts and experiences. Fear is part of it. It is one of those things that the human is able to experience. Not only limited to the human being but to organic life in general – animals, and even plants and trees, are known to have fears. But yes fear is natural to the human design. Perhaps the unique thing in the human is that it can be….
My story concerns the loss of my baby girl, which happened two and a half years ago, in January 2001. The feelings of shock, pain and sorrow are almost not possible to describe. The grief for her was so incredibly painful, that I experienced a sense of numbness, alongside the many tears and complete emotional devastation, for a long time. At the time I was not aware of how grief works….
Are you willing to listen to my story? It is a story of bereavement with different phases. In the lives of my husband and myself a stranger sneaked in. His name was Mister Parkinson. We asked him, begged him to leave, but he never left. In the beginning he only showed his face occasionally and sometimes we even forgot that he….
Fear is part of the human condition, and some of it is natural and healthy, as it protects us from danger - like the fear of being attacked that causes us to either defend ourselves or run away, for instance; or fear of the dark when it is natural to be wary of what cannot be seen or understood.
However, sometimes the fear we feel causes us to be rendered helpless and immobile – because….
I'm about the share with you a story who's telling is long past due. It's a familiar story to most of you reading this from death row. And now it's one that all of you in "free world " may benefit from. This is the story of my first day on the row….
What is Waiting?
It is that most precious interlude where you deliberately exclude all extraneous influence for that particular time.
You will be surrounded by stillness; not a ‘doing-nothing’ stillness, but a lively stillness, that….
When someone dies there is a strong need to give what people call “a good send off”. Why do we feel this way? What do we mean by it? What is being sent off? It suggests that the dead (whatever they might be now) are going on some kind of journey. There are expressions like ‘Crossing the Great Water’; some peoples put food and artefacts with the deceased to help them on their ‘journey’….
Understanding psychology - theirs and ours
Everybody builds a psychology unique unto themselves - (psychology = what we handle our daily lives with).
You are born like an empty computer, and what you are exposed to (teaching, parents, home life, environment, religious beliefs - everything) causes you to fill that computer with your own unique ways and means as you try to make sense of all that goes on around you daily. Early childhood life consists of you trying to make rational the mountain of irrationality that surrounds you, in your own individual way. People may show similarities of behaviour but….
When a person nears the end of their time here, the counsellor helps them to gather their life into a ‘whole of importance’ and give it potency by a process of relegating, shedding, neutralising, sorting, putting closure on everything that has not been dealt with, that is left undone, or that is not of importance. It is essential that every dying person has the possibility of doing this with their lives, to make sure that the natural processes before, during and after….